# How To Deal With Social Anxiety

Social anxiety is an issue brought up by many of my viewers and is mainly 
the result of a lack of confidence. The good thing about confidence is 
that you don't need it to have it. This can sound paradoxical, but if you 
can come across confident even if you are not, people will start treating 
you differently which then results in real confidence. A quick Google 
search shows you tips on how to do this, some examples are good posture 
and smiling. 'Fake it till you make it' is a social hack that works 
similarly to inflating views or likes on social media. People tend to 
flock to things and personalities they sense to be successful and since 
faulty conditioning sets the framework for how this is perceived, it is an 
easy system to cheat. You can wonder what it's worth when you understand 
the underlying dynamics and start realizing how empty perceived success 
is. Being famous myself, I have come to experience this insight first 
hand. It is hard to bring this across when everyone makes you believe it 
is so important. If you value my words regarding this matter, I can tell 
you it is as fake as it gets.

Practice is important for growing confidence. Trying out these tricks can 
sound intimidating at first but can easily become a habit when you do it 
on a daily basis. You can also achieve similar results by working out as, 
aside from its direct biological mood-lifting effects, it makes you feel 
better about your body. Another method used by psychologists who 
specialize in treating anxiety is making you aware of the spotlight effect: 
the tendency to overestimate the amount that other people notice your 
appearance or behaviour. It makes sense when you think about it because 
just as you yourself don't spend all that much effort and time scrutinizing 
the looks and behaviour of others, the same applies to the extent that 
other people are doing this to you. It is similar to no longer having the 
urge to speak as much when you become aware that other people aren't really 
listening. When we are trapped inside our head, we can easily lose 
perspective and care or worry about mental images that only exist in our 
own world. Being obsessed with the legacy you leave behind is another 
example. Over time, at best, people will remember a name. And even when we 
think about big names, no one really cares or knows the real person behind 
it. After all, the real self is the neural activity at any given moment 
which is only unique to you. Being aware of this makes people more sincere 
as actions become aligned with core values rather than expectations of 
others. Letting go of identity can greatly improve this process and can 
also help when dealing with anxiety.