# How To Deal With Judgmental Behaviour

Judging or labeling people is a way to condense information. By doing so, 
we speed up the process of evaluating whether a person or situation is 
beneficial or harmful to us. This has been relevant to our survival, where 
quick decisions could make the difference between life and death. Today we 
still judge people with our first impressions and use labels to condense 
information more efficiently. The downside is that we can easily miss out 
on information by prejudging or generalizing others. Jumping to 
conclusions influences the way we listen and communicate and can disable 
us from seeing the full picture. In worst case scenarios it can lead to 
ignorance, racism and other forms of discrimination.

From an early age, we are taught to use labels and judgments to compare 
ourselves with others. It starts with our parents telling us to be as 
clever as our siblings or to get better grades than others and can lead to 
an inherent feeling of not achieving enough. This lack of confidence and 
trust in ourselves can easily bring about a fake identity with ambitious 
goals that are not ours. Socially conditioned beliefs that tell us how to 
be happy and successful are then fueled by a validation-seeking mentality 
that has us constantly comparing ourselves with others. We are better off 
though comparing with our own best version of the self. This brings about 
an awareness that motivates growth and is more in line with what we are. 
Seeing reality for what it is and giving people the benefit of the doubt 
enables us to grow towards our own full potential rather than trying to be 
like others.