# Do We Speak The Same Language?

When we speak, we subconsciously assume that the thoughts and emotions we 
evoke in others are similar to those that are unique to our own experience. 
This misunderstanding is exacerbated when we use loaded concepts such as 
God, love or truth. As a result, people often have endless conversations 
where they talk past each other and end up disagreeing on things they don't 
disagree on at all and vice versa.

That is why I wanted to address this early on in the book. Depending on how 
good I am at writing, I can avoid miscommunication. But since English is 
not my native language, I wanted to explain the mechanisms so you can also 
be part of this process. The best way to understand what someone is trying 
to say is by first listening without bias and by trying to see things from 
the other person's perspective. Being aware of this in conversations can 
also enable you to explain yourself more clearly, as you'll tend to use the 
other person's framework to get your ideas across. Applying this every day 
and always seeking to adapt and improve when it comes to putting thoughts 
into words can drastically impact your social and professional life as well 
as expand your self-knowledge. This is a skill that takes time and practice 
as thoughts always start off as vague and abstract. Being able to put 
thoughts into words defines how we present ideas and beliefs to others but 
also how we give structure to our own thinking. Sharing ideas by using 
relatable examples can help and is often one of the better ways to get your 
points across.